You Can Still Be Great In Spite Of Your Weakness

You Can Still Be Great In Spite Of Your Weakness

I was in the third grade.

My class was transitioning to learn the Language Arts lesson of the day.  But not me; I was packing my belongings to trek down the hallway to Ms.Cooper’s room.  She was the teacher who taught all the kids who had their issues with reading comprehension, grammar and all that English stuff (aka the remedial class).  I wasn’t just on the #strugglebus but I drove the sucka, when it came to anything dealing with grammar or spelling you could count me out; I couldn’t grasp the concept of pronouns, adjectives, adverbs, yeah ALL of it. 

When Middle School hit, my academic life went through a transformation (thanks to my 6th grade social studies teacher for believing in me) from a struggling student looking at being held back to an all A student graduating with honors and obtaining a Master’s degree (it’s not how you start but how you finish). 

Through it all a part of that insecure third grade who hated being called up to the board in fear that she wouldn’t be able to spell the words or confusing their and there still was trapped inside.  Because that is the time you learn many of the fundamental concepts of grammar; and since I was behind I still lacked what came so easy for many. 

Looking at this you may wonder how in the hell can she be a writer? Isn’t that what they do, use grammar and words to get their point across? How could this be if that is not your strength?

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Surrendering to Celibacy: 3 Lessons Learned from Sacrifice

Surrendering to Celibacy: 3 Lessons Learned from Sacrifice

I was in the mist of my valley. 

You know the point in my story where I was broke, unemployed and refusing to leave my apartment…yeah that part. 

But during that time I was entering year 3 of my situationship.  For all of you with great relationships that think that was a typo; it is actually a thing.  This is the point where you’re not together per se (you got a man? Nah I’m single) but your actions SCREAM relationship (arguing, fussing, and fighting like y'all together).  It’s a relationship without an ounce of commitment; we had our issues but that was my boo.

We had been together for a while but something weird began to happen and it was the first time that I experience this feeling.  I was on my way home from his place and I was having a heart to heart to God about my life situation.  I felt as though I had been in this low place for a while and nothing was shaking for me.  I was looking for him to do something DRASTIC in my life.  Not quite turn water into wine but maybe pop a job in my inbox or do some magic to my bank account. 

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5 Things to do before ballin out with tax money

5 Things to do before ballin out with tax money

Americans everywhere patiently waited as the clock hit 12 and it was officially January 2017.  While some were waiting to begin their New Year’s Resolutions; some of us were excited about another event. 

The arrival of the W-2s. 

Poor little post men began to be annoyed more than when a little kid ask “are we there yet?” for the 100th time in 5 minutes. 

The quicker the W-2s dropped the sooner we all can run to our closest tax preparation place to get all of the bands that the government was going to run us (which reminds me, if you REALLY enjoy The Fear Hurdler, let me claim a couple of your kids…Thanks in advance)

And of course memes flood the internet like...

Which reminds me how I wish I would’ve learned this lesson a lot earlier in life.  As soon as my deposit would hit, I would run to the mall and buy the latest Jordan, Coogi, Roc A Wear and Black Label outfits, and then go out to eat EVERY single night.  Now as I look at my closet full of outdated clothes and a nearly empty bank account, I think to myself…DAMN I SHOULDN’T HAVE SPENT ALL MY TAX MONEY!

I’m not telling you what you should do because it is yours at the end of the day; just HIGHLY suggesting some things you should do with your tax money before you make it rain.

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10 Books Every Young Black Woman Needs to Read in Order to SLAY

10 Books Every Young Black Woman Needs to Read in Order to SLAY

Slay: Killed it. Succeed in something amazing. (urban dictionary)

In a world where the #BeyHive reigns supreme; everyone wants to possess the superpower to SLAY. Whether it’s informing your hairdresser to slay your hair to the Gawds or with a new dress from Forever 21; the objective is always to kill it. With our careers, business, relationships, and spirituality hold no exception to this rule.

When we pick up a book it allows us to stretch beyond our current knowledge and begin to think out of the box. As an African American woman it seems to be more challenging for us as we have to fight against BOTH minorities (woman and ethnicity). Many of us want to SLAY throughout our life but have no idea of how to start. Well girl here is the ammo to slay your year…I mean knowledge IS power.

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25 quotes that will offer hope in the midst of a messy America

25 quotes that will offer hope in the midst of a messy America

No matter if it’s social media, the news, or conversations in the workplace; it is tough to realize the state of our country.  Though we have never been perfect, it seems as though we have hit the gas pedal to a decline.  Whether it is another day and a new executive order signed, banning people, or alternative facts covered in press conferences.  The current times are tough and I can’t help but think of the battles that our ancestors had to fight.  No matter what obstacles stood in their way, they ALWAYS found a way to overcome.  It gives me hope knowing where I come from and the strength that resides within. 

Here are 25 quotes to remind you that you will come out victorious no matter what lies ahead of you. 

1.       "I am water.  What does water do when it hits a barrier? It goes around it." - Mara Brock Akil

2.       "Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time.  We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.  We are the change that we seek." – President Barack Obama

3.       "Freedom is never given; it is won." - A. Philip Randolph

4.       "It’s up to you to be responsible for how you feel if you’re not happy.  Your happiness lies in your hands.  You can’t rely on a man to make you happy or complete you.  That starts with you." – Taraji Henson

5.       "I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear."         - Rosa Parks

6.       "Never be limited by other people’s limited imaginations." – Dr. Mae Jemison (first African American female astronaut)

7.       "Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly"           – Langston Hughes

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A Selfish Prayer Leads to A Bittersweet Goodbye

A Selfish Prayer Leads to A Bittersweet Goodbye

The end of January always makes me an emotional wreck.  I can be at home watching a Kevin Hart stand-up special on Netflix and burst into an overflow of tears.  You would think that I was 8-month hormonal pregnant lady.  And if you ask anyone who knows me, they will tell you that sadness is not a part of my emotional pallet.  So for me to act in this type of matter is WAY out of the ordinary for me.  But once I start to notice the feeling, I can tell you that the time is near. 

12 years ago, on January 23 my grandmother passed.

That week has been engraved into my memory.  I was in 10th grade and my mother picked me up from basketball practice, she mentioned that we weren’t going home but to the hospital.  By the sound of her voice, I knew that this wasn’t a typical trip like the ones my grandmother had before.  Then my ma began to talk about how my grandfather told her to take care of her before he passed, and that is what she did.  I could hear the pain in my ma’s voice; I had a gut feeling that things weren’t going well. 

All of my fears were confirmed when I walked into the hospital waiting room and saw my family looking very somber.  A usually lively group looked as though the breath had been sucked out of them.  My brothers greeted me with a hug (which was already weird because we are not the touchy siblings) and we all cried as we embraced each other.

I’ve been in church my entire life and I would always hear testimonies of how prayer changed things.  I don’t think I ever prayed as hard as I did during that week that God would heal my grandmother and allow her to live and stay around just a little bit longer.

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I Can Make You Put Your Phone Down…

I Can Make You Put Your Phone Down…

I have officially become a professional people watcher.  Yes, I am entertained by simply watching people and how they interact with the different dynamics while out; their friends, love ones, or even a stranger.  I did not find the occupation but it found me.  

My mother has always been a stricter for time. All of the clocks in her house are set 47 minutes fast (I don’t understand why it couldn’t be an easy interval; instead, I have to solve a whole math problem to see what time it really is).  Naturally, being her baby girl who acts just like her at times; TIME IS VERY IMPORTANT TO ME.  I am close to always on time and almost to the point of anxiety if I am running late. 

My friends on the other hand.

And not just ONE group of friends, but almost EVERY SINGLE FRIEND that I have is TERRIBLE with time.  So I find myself in places that we are supposed to meet….WAITING.  And I result in people watching.

As I watch other people it seems as though they have broken their necks and it is stuck to look down at their phones.  They can be at the club or surround by people in a restaurant and the whole crew is focused with their head down instead of entertaining one another.  We never want to miss a beat so we complete a cycle full of refreshing Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, SnapChat, repeat.  

When did we become crackheads for our phones?

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