A Want Without A Plan Is Just A Dream: why your dreams will never become reality

Ohhhh, the times you and your work girls have had this conversation in the lunch room...

“Girl, I can’t stand this place, upper management don’t know what the hell they doing.  You know I have my degree in marketing right, that’s where I want to be.” 

I love to hear people and their aspirations of what they want to do in life.  They understand that the current situation is not their final destination.  But on the flip side, when asked what steps they are taking to land the marketing job?


This reminds me of my teenage years; I was CRAZY about Lil’ Bow Wow.  In addition to covering my wall with images of his face, I created a life in my head with this man;

We were going to meet, he was going to sign me (I was an aspiring rapper in the 7th grade; J Jizzle had BARS), then we were going to get married, play basketball and live happily ever after.....sounds pretty legit. 

Raise your hand if you had that same dream (just replace it with your boo, B2K or N’Sync).  Though I was slightly obsessed, how many times did I attempt to become real? Did I write a letter? Attend any meet and greets? Send him my mix tape? NOPE.  Many of our wants are just that, with no steps taken towards them; it is just like my marriage to Lil'Bow Wow; a figment of our imagination!

 Hoping is not an action

“I hope that I win the lottery one day!” 

Seriously I do; 70 million dollars would look mighty nice in my bank account right about now.  But when you don't play the lottery, that is hard to achieve.  Which then doesn't make the statement make sense.  How can I hope to win the lottery if I don't even do the one thing to win it?

 Hope is not an action word.  That doesn't stop us from using it as our only plan of attack. We literally sit around and wait for things to happen.  Much as if you didn’t apply for a job that you wanted and hope a random person comes out of the wood works with an offer letter.  Sorry, even though that would be wonderful but I doubt it would happen if you’re not at least setting yourself up for the alley oop.  So, if that is your only action plan, get your life and reconsider.

 What’s Holding you back

Before I started to blog, I came up with every excuse on why I couldn't.  "I didn't have time... I don't have enough stuff to talk about.... I would be vulnerable if I told my story....." (the list goes on for another 10 pages but I decided to spare y'all).  But what I realized that it wasn't the excuses that were holding me back, but the FEAR associated with my "want."  

Our failure to act on our wants has everything to do with us being scared to achieve it.  It may take you our of your comfort zone to network for a new job, or losing the stability of becoming an entrepreneur.  

It is not until you can identify what is REALLY holding you back that you can create a plan to become the person that you are destined to be.  Take a minute to reflect..... What are you really afraid of and how is it keeping you in dreamland? 

Why you mad? 


It is a powdery mix that is placed in the drinks of those who are not pursing what they desire in life.  It slips in their glass, waiting for the moment they become......"THIRSTY."  

Females have the tendency to be PETTY BETTYS! It's hard for some woman be excited for others to win; they must take a sip of Hatorade and find a way to be persistent in bringing them down.  ESPECIALLY, if it is what they want.....

"She lost all that weight now she look sick...."  (because you can't lose weight)

"I don't know why she married him; he was just in my inbox three years ago...." (because you don't have a man)

"She dress tacky, how can she be a stylist to someone else...." (because you want to be a personal stylist)

Instead of seeing it as an opportunity for growth; we hate on others.  Why not reach out to see what meal plans and exercises were followed to reach your goals? 

It's all about perspective.  You can travel a lot further when building others up than tearing them down and getting no where.  In the room of success envy doesn’t have a place to reside.  Ditch it or stay where you are (probably at the water cooler hating while they continue to stunt like you wish you were...Bloooop).

Words alone mean NOTHING.  Action and words are a inseparable pair, without the two working together; be expected to be stuck.  A canoe does not move forward unless you pick both paddles up and begin to row. 

What action can you perform today that will make your dreams reality?