Posts tagged distractions
5 Habits that’s a must for Millennials in 2019

Christmas time is almost here, which can only mean one thing.  The New Year is right around the corner.  As we take inventory of all the people we are cutting off and leaving behind in 2018.  It’s another thing that you must consider to reach new levels and achieve your goals in 2019. 


You become what you do daily.  And if you want to fear LESS so that you can do more in the New Year, here are a couple habits that you should start to practice. 


It is easy to find things that aren’t going your way and fall down the black hole of complaining. Which usually opens up a can for a bad day. 

“The traffic is bad”

“I can’t find a place to park”

“My project didn’t save”

“…this is the worse day ever!”

Instead, when you wake up begin to write down three things that you are thankful for.  If you don’t think you have anything to be thankful for take a moment to reflect on some things that you may be taking for granted.  One day, I wrote down how I was thankful that heat rises, because I stayed on the third floor and didn’t have to turn my heat on (cheaper electricity bill, AYE). 

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Keep Your Group Chat From Being Trash

I pick up my phone to see 200+ unread text messages.  Let me find out that I’m lit.  But my ego is quickly diminished as I see that it is from the group chat.  With the growth of Imessage, group messages are at an all-time high.  It makes partaking in foolery convenient.  No need of screenshot a picture on Instagram and send the same message to everybody in your crew to talk shit.  Now you can just do it once and throw shade (I mean discuss) together. 


It will also distract you.  9.9 out of 10, the conversations will sidetrack you from the work that you should be getting done.  The debate on if Khole should stay with Tristan is too juicy to miss out on.  And you have to add your opinion about the hypothetical dream wedding that you friend is planning right now in her head. 

So, how can you maximize your benefit of being in a group chat and keep it from being trash?

Be Selective

When you look at your phone and a group of numbers turns into a name.  You have just been added to a group chat.  Now some group chats are to disperse information at once like an upcoming trip.  Or it could be to inspire one another.  But there are other groups that were developed for the sole purpose of being messy.  And in that case, here is how you know to stay or leave.  If most of the conversation is intended to break down others then it’s time to go or place the group on mute. 

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Why your pit stop has a purpose

Back in my college years, I enjoyed nothing more than to hop in the car, and hit the road.  It didn’t matter where we were going, as long as I didn’t have to drive…I was always DOWN. “Jas you want to g.....” They would barely finish the sentence before I jumped up and said YEP, all I needed to know was the time we would be pulling out (no need to ask ten million questions, who all coming? Where we going? Who going to be there? What we going to be doing?….might as well stay at home instead of administrating a questionnaire). 

I always loved these trips because of the people I would meet, new experiences and of course my crew had to show'em how we partied in Charlotte.  But in order to have the time of my life there was a journey involved, and it always included pit stops. Somebody always had to use the potty (......usually me), we HAD to stop when we saw cheap gas, and of course a food stop was always necessary, and then back on the road we went.  Why? Because our pit stop wasn’t meant to stay all day but for a purpose (and I already told y’all I was tryna get there so I could turn up). 

So why is it that we stay at the job that we hate, won’t dump the no good boyfriend, or continue to stay in that wack city instead of moving where there is opportunity for us?  Baby girl do NOT confuse your PIT STOP for being the FINAL destination.  It’s not the end but merely just a short stop within life.

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“Nike Ain’t Worried About Reebok” : How to get ahead in a competitive world

It was the crack of dawn and I had awoke before my alarm went off. I tossed and turned but  I knew that getting the last hour of sleep was not going to happen.  So like every millennial I looked over my shoulder grabbed my phone and began to scroll through IG (@thefearhurlder if you don’t follow me already). 

Every once and a while I am able to find a great motivational quote to take my day to the next level.  There it was……posted in the weeeeeee hours of the morning “Nike ain’t worried about Reebok.”

Without a second look, I took a screenshot and sent it out to my friends accompanied with the routine good morning message.  It wasn’t a deep provoking, SAT word usage quote, but rather simple and straight to the point!  The world of business is filled with competition no matter where the company stands, someone is always looking for ways to claw to the top.  Nike in the athletic world is the MAN, they have found themselves the leader of most, if not all categories all these years, so of course other organizations such as Reebok have always scratched their coat tails. 

How does Nike continue to be great even after all of these years? 

Simple.......... they focus on NIKE.  They don’t sit around and wonder what Reebok is doing in Reebokland, but create ways to be better versions of themselves.  They literally just gave us a simple blueprint and instruction on success with 5 words.  But in the real world we go to class, work, and social media only to obsess our time with what the next woman is doing. Yes, I saidobsessed!

We consume our day in Groupme chats or work IM’s with conversations“......ya ole girl ain't posted nothing in 3 weeks, I wonder what she doing..” or “ did she get that project, probably because she kisses the manager’s butt always in they face…” 

But Nike just gave the blueprint and it did not include paying attention to their competitors.  So today let’s take a look at what causes us to focus on others and how to shift the focus back to ourselves, in order to get ahead in this highly competitive world. 

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