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10 Books Every Young Black Woman Need to Read in Order to SLAY

Slay: Killed it. Succeed in something amazing. (urban dictionary)

In a world where the #BeyHive reigns supreme; everyone wants to possess the superpower to SLAY. Whether it’s informing your hairdresser to slay your hair to the Gawds or with a new dress from Forever 21; the objective is always to kill it. With our careers, business, relationships, and spirituality hold no exception to this rule.

When we pick up a book it allows us to stretch beyond our current knowledge and begin to think out of the box. As an African American woman it seems to be more challenging for us as we have to fight against BOTH minorities (woman and ethnicity). Many of us want to SLAY throughout our life but have no idea of how to start. Well girl here is the ammo to slay your year…I mean knowledge IS power.

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Why you should cut your hair to experience this feeling
"Freedom! Freedom! I can't move freedom, cut me loose!"

As I walked into the hotel room in Atlanta after the “big chop”, Cherrelle begins to sing this like she was auditioning to be Beyonce's backup singer.  I mean we were in town for the Formation Tour but I didn’t realize she was directing the song towards me...well until she followed up with...

“How do you feel….do you feel FREE?” 

After riding around in ATL traffic all morning, the A-hole side of me said.. 

“Uhhhhhhh no… I mean it’s just a cut.” 

Just under two years ago I went from long hair don’t care, to being a Dej Loaf look alike; so cutting my relaxer off didn’t feel like a big deal to me. But after I sat on the question for a while I begun to wonder........really, what did this jump to the natural world mean to me?

When was the last time you did something purely because you wanted to? No matter what any one else's opinion was; your actions remained un-bothered.  When I first cut my hair , I wanted to go natural but the consensus from everyone was that it would not be a good look. Even though they didn’t want me to cut it in the first place; they voiced that if I cut it I should keep it relaxed, and that is just what I did.

But when I decided to do the "big chop", I talked about going natural but everyone thought I would just transition.  I left it at that and did not reveal the plan I had.  So I called up my girl Rachel and said “giiiiiiirl I need you to chop all my hair off.”  She probably thought I was playing, well until I showed up to my appointment and then she found out just how serious I was.

I consulted no one....I didn't ask for conformation....I just made the decision and did it……..

A couple days later I posted a picture on IG like whoop there it is…….

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I Took an L: When going viral goes WRONG

I messed up…..

It just wasn’t a little bit but BAD……

Actually the mess up wasn’t that bad…

……….VERY small but it carried an HUGE impact. 

To understand let me take you back to about a week ago

(because I know I’m not the only one that started to sing the song).

Well as y’all know by now I LOVE to read.  This year I challenged myself to read a book a week and I am always posting on IG and FB some of my pickups (a little birdie told me the READ WITH ME tab will be receiving a makeover….stay tune…).  As a result folks are always asking me where they should start and what my top recommendations are.  I noticed that after a while I had created a list of the top ten books that I would suggest to read. 

Well recently I have been given the opportunity to become a contributor for the website LifeHack.org. I mean what better way than to have my first article be the chance to share this wonderful list that I had created. I knew that this would be an awesome catalyst for folks to read more.  I was TOO HYPE!

After I wrote the article and pressed “Submit for Review” I noticed one problem, for the title I put “10 Books Every Young Black Women Needs to Read in Order to SLAY.” 

NOOOOOO I meant to put WOMAN instead of WOMEN…wowers!

I attempted correct the mistake but it was too late….the system wouldn’t let me. 

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9 tips to build a dope booklist

Last year I decided that I wanted to read two books every month….24 books.  It sounded excellent at the time but where in the H&M do I find 24 book titles to even read.  Here I had this great idea but absolutely no idea where to start. 

Where do we all go when we need answers…….GOOGLE.  After finding myself on page 10 (you know the search was real because we usually stop at page 2) I knew that my mission had ended before it had started.  But one day as I was scrolling on IG I came across this hashtag…#myleikbookshare and here were SEVERAL books that Myliek Teele, the CEO of Curlbox (who is an avid reader by the way) and thousands of people sharied photos of what they were reading……JACKPOT! This is exactly what I was looking for to jumpstart this new lifestyle as a reader. 

After I posted “Oh! So you don't read: 5 reasons people fail to pick up a book” I was overwhelmed by the response of people who reached out to look for a place to start.  They realized that they needed to step their reading game up, but was looking to me for direction, where to start? What to read? How do I read so many books? (I carve out at least and hour 4-5 days a week btw) but most importantly where in the hell did I find all of these good books to read? After my initial goldmine find on Insta, I have been able to develop some tips along the way to get started with your own reading list, and ladies if you stay until the end I have a nice surprise for you!

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Oh! So you don't read? 5 reasons people fail to pick up a book

If you haven’t noticed it by now but I like to read; actually scratch that..I LOVE to read.  My goal for the year was to read at least 2 books a month and by April it turned into almost a book a week!  Let me be real it has not always been that way.  Throughout my life the only time that I picked a book up was for class (and I would barely read that).  During graduate school I went to a conference where every attendee was given a book; I thought this would be the perfect opportunity to start reading (I mean that is what grown-ups do, might as well start acting like one).  Too bad that I did not see pass page 10 before the book went to the land of the unknown never to be seen again.  So the decision was reached that reading just wasn’t my “THING.” 

Fast forward two years later……. It has become my “THING” literally it has changed my life from the way that I think, view life, manage money, network, pray, and has turned weaknesses into strengths.  But of course being the person that I am I LOVE to share the knowledge that I learn after reading a great book. This is why my friends are always telling me that I have a book recommendation for EVERY situation (just call me J-Hizzy Libreezy).  This is why I am always confused when someone comes to me with a situation and I recommend a great book that will address everything they are going through and they say “Oh, I don’t read….”

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