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The Millennial's Guide to Adulting

The moment has come…

You have been waiting for this time to arrive since you were 10 and asked your mama if she could stop at McDonald’s and she responded with “do you have some McDonald’s money?”  That was the day you said to yourself….”I can’t wait to become an adult…..and then I can get all the McDonald’s that I want to!”  

Swagg’d out in your cap and gown; your friends and family couldn’t be prouder.  With a degree in one hand and your membership card to become a full fledge ADULT in the other! No more papers…you are free… Life is going to be GREAT.  I mean you only fantasized of this day for centuries and you are TURNT that it is finally here.  

But….. (why is there always a but?) life makes a turn for the unexpected, and this ADULT thing is nothing like you thought it would be.

After submitting 8,592,058 resumes, you even call your own phone to ensure that it is still working.  All these applications and NO call backs; and can’t forget that every entry level job wants you to have 10 years of experience.  So you take ANY job….and when I mean ANY…I mean ANY; which is usually very random and barely paying you pennies.  

And as a result, you are BROKE! Living check to check, would be an upgrade at this point.  Bills continue to bully you month after month.  And we still can’t figure out what is wrong with Sallie Mae, she has lost her mind for even asking for that payment .

Yes, my friend you have caught a case of the “ADULTING.” All of your initial excitement of how life is supposed to be after graduation is hit with a two piece and finished off with an upper cut.  There is no way that we can run from it.  We can either take the beating or learn how to navigate with a different approach to ease into the transition of becoming an ADULT. 

The Light

So I know that this isn’t much coming from one of the most optimistic people that you will ever meet (yes, I look at the bright side of every situation).  But please let me know how complaining has helped the situation? (….don’t worry I’ll wait).  ADULTING can cause life to really suck at this point; but there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for.  

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Stay Lit! 3 ways to stay motivated

We have all been there…..

You think of this BOMB idea, and you are mad hype about it.  Can’t hold water at this point, so of course you have to share it with Instagram.  Everyone is like “Dang girl, that’s dope, can’t wait to see it.” (and we can’t forget that the picture getting hella “likes”). 

The first week; it’s the main focus.  All of your time is dedicated to this one area.  You miss out on all the turn ups happening around the city; ALL IN!  The next week; stilled focused but only worked a couple days on it.  But by the end of the month, it becomes…

….what idea? 

As time passes, it is pushed further and further down the to-do list.  After a while, you just don’t feel motivated to work on it.

If I wasn’t in your Kool-Aid with that …how about this.

You go to a conference, and the keynote speaker is giving you LIFE.  Before they finish you have already mapped out the changes that will be made.  Only to get home and fall back into the same routine of what you said that would change. 

Both situations the candle was LIT, so how do we keep it from being blown out in order to finish what was start? 

 

Who is in your crew

Influence. 

The people that we surround ourselves with play a HUGE part in the direction that we take in life.  Why you think your mama didn’t want you hanging out with Timmy down the street.  Because influence matters.  Some people have the power to blow your flame out (the ones that want you to stay in a box, or the folks that want you to do good as long as you’re not doing better than them, annnnnd can’t forget the lazy hatin’ heffas….), BUT, the right people can have the opposite effect. 

 

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